tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post8045632344684556492..comments2023-11-02T06:49:24.564-07:00Comments on American Home Birth: Hindsight is 20/20Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10460197503063601577noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-47618151426358942992017-01-08T23:50:16.626-08:002017-01-08T23:50:16.626-08:00Wonderful post. I know the pregnancy time is reall...Wonderful post. I know the pregnancy time is really a difficult stage and surly we need some extra help.There are trained <a href="http://www.shinebirthservices.com" rel="nofollow">doulas Oahu</a> who offer postpartum for the new mommies.Carrie Josehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04145955712711592146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-88340631805368355102014-11-08T07:01:45.280-08:002014-11-08T07:01:45.280-08:00I'm a redhead too, by chance. Also by chance, ...I'm a redhead too, by chance. Also by chance, I've run the same attitude course. Our first daughter was born in a freestanding birth center, because I don't like hospitals, and it was an option under our insurance then. Fortunately, nothing terribly awful happened, but a few not-so-great things did that had me resolved to just go to a hospital if we had another baby. Well, here we are, four years later, and the old hospital anxiety led to googling led to a three page birth plan draft, a very anxious husband about the ridiculous things I was asking for, and stress. Lots of stress. I don't remember exactly how I was blessed to find Dr. Amy's site, but I thank the gods that I did. It may have been when I started googling the Farm, because we're not that far from it - I do remember that the first thing I read of hers mentioned how Gaskin lost a son by refusing to transfer to the hospital - and thinking oh...am I so worried about the possible "cascade of interventions" at the hospital that I'm actually considering inadvertently sacrificing a child to the altar of dogma with these people? And then I couldn't stop reading her stuff, and all the comments, and that three-page ridiculous birth plan is forgotten. <br /><br />I love your blog, because I feel like it's the gentler version of the most important points. Personally, I love both of your writing styles - but, if I had a friend who was considering a birth center, or home birth, I'd send her to your site first. I appreciated Dr. Amy's harsh-reality wake up, but I know so many women feel hurt by it. Screw feelings - babies and women are dying preventable deaths over this. Over the last week, thanks to you and Dr. Amy, an ideal birth in my mind has changed from - well, read any given natural child birth site and run down the list - to a wonderful hospital birth in which, most likely, I won't need any interventions - but, if I do, I now trust the system. Luckily, we have a great OBGYN practice, and a great hospital, and everything is going to be great - especially since I won't be fighting them every step of the way any more. <br /><br />I loved your breakdown of BOBB, too - and, how funny that we both had a preexisting aversion to hospitals, and then saw that, and things cascaded from there. Thank goodness you didn't have a birth center to choose from under your insurance plan, because that's really a roll of the dice with PPH, as you've stated. I'm lucky that it didn't happen to me at that birth center. I did lose enough blood that any OB would have dosed me with pit, but they didn't. I Googled whether the "redheads bleed more" theory is true, and it seems to be only rhetorically so, but hey, going forward I'm fine trusting the OB, who's seen, you know, thousands of births, and, here in the American South, where there's a higher percentage of us to begin with. Versus the one study of under fifty people that compared bleeding after a dental procedure in redheads vs non-redheads of both genders that I was going to rely on to try to refuse the now-standard pit after delivery. How perfectly pastoral of me. <br /><br />Anyhow, much love, thanks for writing, and all the best to you and yours! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-26364309355309233102014-01-29T15:19:47.016-08:002014-01-29T15:19:47.016-08:00Just read this post... I LOVE you! You are so ins...Just read this post... I LOVE you! You are so inspiring. I think we all suffer from this elitism whether it's related to parenting or not... it's normal and human but good to keep it in check. I hope you're not still feeling any guilt. Your blog is doing so much good for so many women who deserve to know the truth. Women who will make wiser choices, women who will no longer suffer from false senses of guilt, women who will simply be empowered by knowledge. LOVE THIS! ElleMurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01585481665526225076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-91684164536332824682012-08-09T20:13:47.881-07:002012-08-09T20:13:47.881-07:00I love this post and relate in so many ways. Keep...I love this post and relate in so many ways. Keep up the good work!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-7286337105378713042012-08-03T12:14:50.335-07:002012-08-03T12:14:50.335-07:00Very nice post.
We found out early on that we w...Very nice post. <br /><br />We found out early on that we were having twins. Instead of worrying about breastfeeding or who was going to cut the cord, I was afraid I would lose the pregnancy. Then, things went well for a while. Then, pre-term labor set in, with hospital bed rest. Ultimately, things worked out fine, the boys were born at 36wk, and didn't need NICU. But throughout the pregnancy, there was always a thread of fear. I had to acknowledge that apart from following the OB's instructions, I had absolutely no control over the situation. The complicated pregnancy was such a huge thing, that it overshadowed any concerns about parenting style and made them look very trivial.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10893754719084052508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-79033434131826981732012-08-02T20:53:53.374-07:002012-08-02T20:53:53.374-07:00Funny how we know everything about parenting befor...Funny how we know everything about parenting before we have any kids! I love how open you are about your change of heart regarding birth and feeding. I had pretty similar views before I started having kids, but since my husband wasn't comfortable with home birth I had our first in the hospital. The staff was great, not pushy, and I was treated very well. <br /><br />My hubby reconsidered home birth with our second, but soon after he said yes and I did more research I realized that I wasn't comfortable with that option...so we just had number two in the hospital as well. Both births were peaceful, quiet and joyful. I realized this time around that I was willing to deal with any discomfort of being "hospitalized" in exchange for the peace of mind I had in regards to my baby's safety if anything went wrong. The odds were against anything bad happening, but I'm not a risk taker to begin with. <br /><br />My oldest is a redhead as well:)MS2mamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4923885836586206729.post-70137833189342655912012-08-02T12:38:59.114-07:002012-08-02T12:38:59.114-07:00Nice post! I used to be pretty judgmental too and...Nice post! I used to be pretty judgmental too and then I had kids and that flew right out the window. I am doing things that I swore up and down as child that I would never do to my own children. My parents make a lot more sense right now.<br /><br />I was super thrilled that one of my kids has red hair, I was always envious of redheads.Awesome Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523320907836876707noreply@blogger.com